Friendships are crucial to a number of YA books and they’ve taught us as readers how important those bonds can really be. They’ve also taught us some of the core tenants of friendship. For International Day of Friendship, we’re celebrating by recapping some of those key bud rules we still swear by.
- Never lie to your friends. You might think you’re helping them by not telling them about something that might hurt them, but they’re going to find out and that will be more upsetting than anything.
- Friendship always comes before romance. You should never go out with your friend’s crush and you should never date a friend’s ex without asking. It never works out well for your new romance or for your friendship, so why risk it?
- Don’t let stereotypes decide your friendships. So often, we assume that because somebody looks a certain way or likes certain things, we stereotype them. Then we assume that because they fit into that stereotype, they’d never work as friends. But nobody’s as simple as a stereotype.
- Apologies are everything. We all make mistakes and say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing. But an apology can go a long way to making things better and patching up friendships!
- Make time for your friends. You might be the Chosen One, but your friends can’t come on all of your adventures. Or you might just be swamped by homework and tests and college applications and forget to have a social life. Your friends will be patient and understanding, but there are still limits. It’s important you find time to talk and hang out anyway.
- Your friends are always right. When they say somebody seems sketchy or that something’s going to go wrong, it’s true. They’re like your voice of reason. So even if you want to scoff and wave it off, you’ll probably regret it if you do.
- Respect the secrets. There are some things that come up in conversations with friends that you shouldn’t tell people, even if it’s never explicitly said that you shouldn’t spread it around. You’ll just know and you better keep your lips sealed. You’d want your friends to keep the secrets about you being the Chosen One, right?
- Loyalty and support are key. Friendship should be about lifting each other up and helping each other succeed. You and your friends might get mad at each other, but in the end, you’ll forgive each other and be there during the next emergency. Because that’s what friends do.